About
About HeartGuide
A small site of honest dating and relationship guides — written by hand, for adults, in plain language.
HeartGuide started with a simple frustration: most dating advice on the internet reads like it was written by someone who has never actually been on a date. It is either vague — “be confident”, “just be yourself” — or it is a script to memorise, which falls apart the moment a real person says something unexpected.
So this site does it differently. Every guide is about one specific situation — the first message, the first date, the apology after a real mistake — and it tells you what actually works, what to say, and what to do next. The examples are concrete: a coffee shop on a Tuesday, a text message word for word, a conversation that went sideways and how to recover. If a guide cannot give you something you can use tonight, it is not finished.
Who writes it
Every guide is written by Jordan Ellis, the name on each byline. The guides are written by a person, one at a time, and checked before they are published. That is the whole team — there is no content farm behind this site, and nothing here is generated in bulk.
What this site is not
It is not a pickup site. There are no tricks, no lines to copy and paste, and no promises about results. Dating involves another person with their own mind, and no guide can guarantee how they will respond. What a guide can do is help you show up as yourself, clearly and kindly — and that is what these guides aim for.
It is also not a substitute for professional help. If a relationship involves serious problems — repeated broken trust, controlling behaviour, or anything that affects your safety or wellbeing — a guide is not enough, and the guides say so where it matters. A counsellor or therapist is the right call in those cases.
How the guides stay honest
Dating apps change their features, norms shift, and what worked two years ago can sound dated today. Readers' corrections are how the guides stay accurate. If you spot something out of date, unclear, or just wrong, tell us through the Contact page. Every correction gets read.
The site is free to read, start to finish. There is no advertising on the site and no tracking. You can reach us at dannisjersey@gmail.com.